How to Use Peer-to-Peer Sites to Borrow Money from Friends and Family After a Layoff

peer-to-peer lendingBorrowing is never recommended after a layoff. But sometimes you have to do what you have to do.

There are a lot of not-so-smart ways to borrow money, particularly when you are in desperate need of funds.

Title loans certainly come to mind. But there’s a high risk of losing your car in the process, not the least of which because you don’t have a job to repay the loan.

You can also turn to credit cards. After all, you can use the credit lines without having to qualify based on your income or credit, so the whole process is pretty much effortless. The ease of accessing money for credit lines is also the built-in problem. Once you get started, when do you stop? Tapping credit cards for cash can create a vicious cycle that continues until you’re unable to repay the loans. Worse, cash advances on credit cards generally carry higher interest rates than for purchases.

Loan salvation these days is increasingly coming from peer-to-peer sites, that enable you to borrow money while bypassing the banks. The loans also typically come with both fixed rates and payments, making the repayment process totally predictable. Best of all, you may be able to arrange a loan from family or friends through a peer-to-peer lending site.

Borrowing should be avoided at all costs if you have been laid off from your job. But if you absolutely need a loan, peer-to-peer sites may be the best way to do it – even if the proceeds for the loan ultimately will come from family and friends.

When You Can’t Get a Loan from the Bank . . .

The inherent problem with getting a loan from a bank – other than existing credit lines – is that you can’t qualify because you don’t have a job. That limits your options, no matter where you want to borrow money.

But peer-to-peer lending sites offer the opportunity to match the lender with the borrower. If you need to borrow money, and a family member is prepared to lend it, you can meet on a peer-to-peer lending site and make it happen. The sites offer the opportunity to formalize the loan process, and that has a number of advantages to both parties.

Why You May Want to Formalize the Loan Process with Family or Friends

From a borrower standpoint, one of the biggest problems with getting direct loans from friends and family is that it can very easily lead to misunderstandings. You might borrow money with the intention that you’ll begin repayment once you regain employment. But the friend or family member making the loan might expect repayment to begin immediately.

In either case, any time expectations are not met in a loan situation between family and friends, misunderstandings can develop. And when you do business with family and friends, the potential damage from the fallout of a loan agreement can go well beyond money. You risk permanent damage to a very important relationship. Formalizing the loan arrangement can help prevent the type of misunderstandings that cause problems in the first place.

You and your “lender” can work out whatever terms are agreeable to all parties. There is no bank process to go through since the lenders – your family or friends – choose the terms that are acceptable to them. And once settled, there is an agreement with a repayment term that includes the interest rate and monthly payment.

Another advantage comes when you’re looking to borrow a single loan from several different friends or family members. A peer-to-peer lending site could enable you to create a single loan in which you are the lone borrower, but there is more than one friend or family member acting as lenders.

Why Friends and Family May Want to Formalize the Loan Process

Family and friends making loans face a double risk in doing so. Not only is there the same risk of permanently damaging an important relationship – just as you as the borrower would face – but they also risk the potential of losing some or all of the money that they provided for the loan.

For this reason, they may prefer formalizing the loan agreement through a third-party source, such as a peer-to-peer lending site. Sure, you could all sit down and hash out a formal loan agreement, using a standard loan agreement forms. But unless someone in the group is a lawyer, doing it that way may be completely un-enforceable in court.

Repayment of the loan through a peer-to-peer lending site does not guarantee that the loan will be paid, but it does create the proper framework that will prevent misunderstandings, and maximize the lender’s ability to be repaid their money with interest.

There is another reason why family and friends may prefer to use a peer-to-peer lending site to formalize making a loan to you. Under IRS regulations, the transfer of funds from one person to another exceeding $14,000 could be construed as a non-repayable gift. That could create a gift tax liability for the lender, particularly if you fail to repay the loan.

Setting up a loan through a peer-to-peer lending site would provide an acceptable paper trail that would prevent the IRS from re-classifying the loan as a taxable gift.

Using Peer-to-Peer Lending Sites

How do you use peer-to-peer lending sites to create a loan from family and friends? If you need to borrow money, you can go to a peer-to-peer lending site and create a loan listing on that site. This would establish the amount of money that you’re looking to borrow and the terms you’re willing to accept. The friend or family member could go to the site and accept the terms, or even propose modifications. Once you’re both in agreement, the loan can be created.

There are now dozens of peer-to-peer lending sites available. Some of the more popular ones include Prosper and Lending Club. One of the complications with Lending Club is that they run their loans through WebBank, so the process is likely to be more formal, though it’s still worth checking out.

If you’re looking to do a larger loan amount, particularly one that will be secured by your primary residence, you could also check out National Family Mortgage. As the name implies, they are in the business of creating peer-to-peer mortgages between family members.

Once again, if you have been laid off from your job, borrowing money should only be a last resort and only in case of emergency. Your first priority should be to create additional income sources in combination with lowering your living expenses. But failing that – and when borrowing is absolutely necessary – peer-to-peer lending sites could be the way to go.

What do you think about peer-to-peer lending sites? Are you going to try one? Leave a comment!


Should You Take Advantage of COBRA After a Layoff?

COBRA after LayoffNext to the loss of your income, the biggest concern you’ll probably have following a layoff is the prospect of losing your health insurance.

This is a rational concern.

Not only will you not have sufficient income to deal with medical events, but the very fact that you’re unemployed can make you more vulnerable to accidents, injuries, and certain types of illnesses. For these reasons, you’ll want to do whatever you can to make sure you have at least some type of health insurance in place during your time of unemployment.

The most common form of health insurance following a layoff is through COBRA. This is an extension of health insurance coverage that large employers are required to make available to their employees following separation.

What is COBRA?

COBRA is a federal law passed in 1985. It stands for Consolidated Omnibus Reconciliation Act of 1985. It is a law that requires employers to offer health insurance coverage to former employees under certain circumstances – that includes layoffs.

COBRA covers employee and/or their dependents under the following circumstances:

  1. Death of the employee
  2. Separation/termination for any reason except gross misconduct
  3. Divorce or legal separation – benefits extended to an ex-spouse
  4. Continuation of coverage for dependent children who reach the age at which they’re no longer covered

Under COBRA, health insurance benefits under an employer’s group plan are made available to the employee and the employee’s family for a period of up to 18 months. However, if you are deemed to be disabled – by the Social Security Administration – the coverage can be extended up to 29 months. And in the event of divorce, or the death of the employee, coverage may continue for up to 36 months.

Why COBRA May Be a Good Option for You

There are solid reasons for accepting COBRA coverage in the event of a layoff. The continuation of your existing health insurance plan is one. It will provide you with complete continuity in regard to providers, at agreed-upon benefit levels even after your layoff. In effect, it will mean business as usual for you and your family, at least in regard to health insurance.

Along the same line, if you opt to take the COBRA plan, there’ll be no break in your health insurance coverage. That can be especially important if an illness or injury occurs shortly after your regular employer-sponsored health insurance terminates. That will be the last thing you will need on a greatly reduced income.

It will also avoid the necessity of shopping around for a new plan. And when you’re dealing with a layoff, you need to keep your time and your mind free to focus on the job search. Looking for the right health insurance plan can be a distraction that you don’t need right now.

Why You May Want to Pass on COBRA for Other Options

Unfortunately, COBRA is not necessarily the best deal you will get in regard to health insurance. Cost is probably the most prohibitive factor. While you’re an employee, it’s very likely that your employer paid a large amount of your monthly health insurance premium – they may have even paid most of it. But once you are separated, you’ll have to pay the entire monthly premium: your portion and the employer contribution.

In addition, the administrator of the COBRA plan can mark the premium up with an administrative fee, typically adding something on the order of 15% to the monthly premium. This is the primary reason why people opt out of COBRA – they simply can’t afford it following a layoff.

One of the basic limitations of COBRA is that it is a temporary health insurance plan. As stated above, the policy will only remain in force for up to 18 months in most cases. After that, you’ll either have to replace it with a new employer-sponsored plan or get a private policy.

If your future involves working for an employer that does not provide health insurance, or if you decide to become self-employed, you will need to find a replacement policy for your COBRA plan within 18 months. That can delay your problem without solving it on a permanent basis.

Going with Obamacare Instead

Since the passing of the Affordable Care Act (Obamacare), the options in regard to health insurance policies have slimmed considerably. Gone are the days when you could take a catastrophic health insurance plan, with high deductibles and low premiums, just to get you through a stretch of unemployment. You’ll have to fit into one of the Obamacare plans – Bronze, Silver, Gold or Platinum – with whatever premiums and limitations each has.

However, there may be advantages to having this option. One of the biggest reasons why people were forced into COBRA in the past was the presence of pre-existing conditions. Obamacare has done away with pre-existing conditions, which means you are virtually guaranteed approval and can not be charged higher premiums. The only factors that a health insurance company can adjust your premiums on are geographic location, your age, and whether or not you are a smoker.

With the elimination of pre-existing conditions, applying for a policy is also easier than it’s ever been. The application process can generally be completed on the phone, in not more than 10 or 15 minutes, and you’ll be asked no more than a half-dozen questions.

Since COBRA is generally offered to the separated employee several weeks after a layoff, you should investigate your options under Obamacare as soon as possible. Once you know what your premiums will be under that plan, you’ll be in a position to judge whether or not COBRA is the right plan for you.

What do you think about COBRA in light of recent changes to healthcare options? Leave a comment!


How to Convert Employer-Paid Insurance to an Individual Policy Upon Layoff

Health InsuranceAfter you experience a layoff, there is a provision in federal law – known as COBRA – that will enable you to retain your employer-sponsored health insurance plan for up to 18 months or longer.

But health insurance is hardly the only type of insurance coverage that you may have with your employer. There are other types of policies that you may have had through your employer, and you may wish to continue them after you’ve been separated.

Unfortunately, other types of employer-sponsored insurance plans are not dealt with the way health insurance plans are under COBRA. In fact, it’s pretty much a mixed bag as to whether or not you will be able to continue with the various employer-sponsored insurance plans after a layoff. We’ll discuss some of these individually.

What we won’t cover is employer-sponsored health insurance itself. That is covered under COBRA, but since it’s a major topic all by itself, we’ll write about it in a separate article.

What are some of the other employer-sponsored health insurance plans that you may want to convert to private plans upon layoff?

Life Insurance

Next to health insurance, employer-sponsored life insurance is probably the coverage type that is of most concern to most people facing a layoff. This is particularly true if your employer-paid plan is either the only life insurance that you have, or the single largest policy that you have.

While it may be tempting to simply forgo life insurance coverage during a layoff as a way of saving money, this is probably the worst strategy imaginable. Life can become more confusing and stressful when you’re out of work than it was when you were fully employed. You may be more at risk of early death from either accident or illness. Just as is the case with your health insurance, you’ll want to make sure that you have an adequate amount of life insurance even though you don’t have a job.

As far as converting an employer-sponsored group life insurance policy to an individual policy, that will depend upon your former employer and the plan they had place. In order for you to be able to have conversion privileges on your life insurance plan, the group plan has to have a conversion provision for that to happen.

The conversion provision allows a separated employee to convert their life insurance coverage to a private plan, and it usually does not require you to undergo a medical examination. This can be important – if you have any kind of health conditions you may not be able to obtain private life insurance. Or even if you can, it may be with premium rates that are prohibitive. The ability to convert your group plan to an individual one will likely be the best life insurance deal you’ll get.

Even so, the premium that you will pay on the converted group plan will be based upon your age at the time of conversion. That was not the case when you initially signed up for the group plan, but now that you are out of the group, age will be a factor.

In addition, the conversion plan may require that the policy be converted from a term policy to whole life. Generally speaking, that will result in higher premiums than what the plan would have been if it was allowed to remain term. And since you will have exited the group, your premiums will be based on individual rates, not the lower-cost group rates.

As is the case with all converted insurance policies, you’ll be required to fill out relevant paperwork, and to begin making your premium payments in advance of conversion.

Short-Term Disability

The news on a short-term disability plan through an employer is a lot more confusing. Again, the ability to convert it to a private plan will depend upon the arrangement that is included in the group policy for the employer.

One of the complications specific to a layoff is that since you are no longer earning any money, the necessity of short-term disability doesn’t really exist. There will be no income to replace in the event you become disabled. That will likely make short-term disablity unnecessary.

Accidental Death and Dismemberment (AD&D)

AD&D is one of those lesser understood insurance policies, but one with a very specific intent. These policies pay benefits upon one of two situations:

  1. Accidental death – typically within three months of the accidental cause, and
  2. Dismemberment – this is usually the loss of one or more limbs, or eyesight

In regard to dismemberment, the policy will usually pay the full benefit amount upon the loss of both legs, or both arms, or the loss of sight in both eyes. Generally speaking, it will pay 50% of the face amount in the event a single limb is lost, or eyesight in just one eye is gone.

Once again, your ability to convert an employer plan to an individual one will depend upon the way your employer set up the plan, as well as the insurance company itself. Some will allow you to convert your AD&D plan without medical certification, and most will restrict coverage to people under age 70.

Supplemental Health Insurance

Supplemental health insurance is coverage related to certain very specific illnesses or accidents, such as cancer, heart disease or types of disability related to accidents. They’re not health insurance in the traditional sense, but rather supplements that pay you a flat amount of money upon the incidence of the covered event. It can be excellent insurance to have, particularly if you have been laid off. It will provide you with extra cash that you will need to cover health insurance deductibles, as well as additional expenses that may result from your accident or illness.

Best of all, it pays benefits direct to you, rather than to the healthcare provider.

AFLAC is the most common provider of supplemental health insurance. If your plan is through AFLAC, you may be able to convert directly from your employer plan to an individual policy, depending upon how the plan has been set up between your employer and AFLAC. Even if there is no conversion provision, AFLAC will allow you to take an individual policy.

There other insurance companies that provide AD&D coverage, and how you will manage the conversion will depend upon the employer policy  and the conversion provision that may or may not be spelled out in the plan.

Which type of insurance are you looking to convert? Have you converted your insurance before? Leave a comment!


How to Convert Your Layoff Into the Opportunity of a Lifetime

LayoffA layoff typically comes as a complete surprise. When it hits, you might even be in for a bit of a shock. There’s usually a combination of hurt, anger, fear, and anxiety. But once the initial shock wears off, you might want to try to apply a little bit of positive energy to the situation.

No, a layoff is not a happy event. But while we can’t control what happens to us, we can certainly change the way we deal with it. At a time like this, it might be best to step back and do some reflecting. Are there any reasons why this layoff could possibly be a positive development?

I can actually think of a few situations where it could be.

1. You Could Get Out of a Job Where You Might Have Been Stagnating

Have you ever known or heard of someone who was laid off and actually felt relieved? I realize that might be a counterintuitive reaction, but having experienced a couple of job losses myself, I can report that it can actually be a very positive development.

While it’s true that you probably need your job as a means of survival, there are plenty of employment situations that are something much less than a happy marriage. For example, you could have been working for a boss who demanded more than you could give. You might have had one or more coworkers who were making your life miserable. The company may have set goals and expectations that were not doable. You may have been passed over for promotion. Or you may have been stuck in a job that just didn’t fit your skills and preferences.

The loss of that kind of job is often a mixed bag. Sure, you’re worried about losing the paycheck. But the other stuff – the things that made your life miserable on the job – you’re more than happy to say goodbye to.

Sometimes we find ourselves working in a job that truly isn’t a good fit, but we feel too insecure to leave (that’s actually a negative mindset that can be nurtured by a bad job situation). We know that we should leave, but don’t take the initiative. But then circumstances develop that make the decision for us.

That’s not always an unhappy outcome. If that is your situation, embrace it for all it’s worth. You’re getting out of a painful situation, and that will clear the path for you to seek a better one.

2. It Could Be a Chance to Make a Career Change

As much as we may not want to admit this, sometimes a layoff is completely our own fault. Let me explain.

Many times, people find themselves working in jobs and careers that don’t really work for them on any number of levels. They may have gotten into the field because of parental pressure, a lack of direction early in life, or even by accident. However they landed in the job, it’s never really been a good fit. As the years pass, they gradually, quietly burn out, until they are no longer effective in their work.

That’s when – and why – a layoff hits. We can only pretend for so long, but eventually it becomes obvious. Your boss and your coworkers become painfully aware that you are not the right person for the job. It may not even be anything specific that you are doing or not doing – you simply might not be bringing the right energy and enthusiasm to the job.

If you even suspect that this may have been a factor in the loss of your job, you should greet your layoff as an opportunity to make a career change. Yes, it’s scary to make a change as big as one that involves your occupation, but you will never arrive in a career that you are meant to be in if you don’t.

Instead of agonizing over the events that led up to your job loss, do some soul-searching. Ask yourself if you even liked that job, and that field – and be completely honest in your answer. It could even provide some clues about your future direction.

The layoff should always be viewed as a career break more than anything else. It gives you a chance to step back and reflect on where you’ve been, and whether or not your work is actually working for you. If it’s not, it may be time to fill your hours figuring out what you should do for your next career.

3. It Could Be an Opportunity to Start Your Own Business

Some people do very well working in an organization. They thrive with a set schedule, management oversight, a daily work agenda, and the support that working with others brings. Others however feel constrained in the same environment. If you felt this way for a while, you may be one of those people who is just cut out to be self-employed.

How can you know if you’re an entrepreneurial person? Here are some clues:

  • You work well independently – in fact, you even prefer to work that way
  • You’re the “go-to-person” – when management really needs to get the job done, they come to you
  • You’re a born crisis manager – when there’s trouble, your coworkers are at your desk
  • You have above average people skills
  • You work in some area of production, and you’re better than average at it
  • You have a natural desire to do more than the minimum required
  • You have the absurd notion that you can actually make things better in your department or company

If you have at least three or four of these traits, being self-employed might be in your blood. Be open to the possibility of becoming self-employed. Your layoff will be opening that door in your life.

4. It’s a Chance to Clear Your Head

Remember back when you were in school, and you had that extended summer vacation every year – the one that lasted for two or three months? It was a welcome break between school years, wasn’t it?

How many chances do you get to take that kind of break in adult life?

A layoff may provide just that opportunity. It may not be good for your finances, but it can be exactly what you need on an emotional, spiritual, and even physical level.

Sometimes you just get burned out – we all do. This is an opportunity to clear your head, to get some rest, to do some experimenting, and to prepare yourself for the next push forward in your life. By doing this, you can actually convert a layoff into a positive experience. You may even find that you come out of your layoff in better shape than you went in. That’s one of the possibilities that could come from a layoff – if you allow it to happen. And it should always be the objective in managing your layoff.

Have you ever lost a job and later realized that it was one of the best things that ever happened to you? Leave a comment!


Would You Take a Career Sabbatical?

Should YOU Take a Career Sabbatical?In the last few years, there has been a lot of attention given to the idea of lifestyle design. As part of this attention, more people are taking career sabbaticals or embarking on “mini retirements.”

The idea is that you don’t have to work for thirty or forty years, only to try and retire for another twenty or thirty years, while your health might be in decline. Instead, the idea is to work for a few years, and then take extended time off for a year or two before going back to work.

To a certain extent, this is something that has been somewhat common in the academic world. My husband is a college professor, and he has colleagues that go on sabbatical to further their research, write books, or engage in other activities.

These days, though, you don’t have to be in academia to take a break from your job. If you plan it right, you can take a sabbatical from almost any job, and get back into things after you’ve had a break.

How Long is Your Break?

Your first job is to figure out how long you want your break to last. Some workers choose to take as little as six months off, while others might go on sabbatical for as many as five years.

How long your break lasts depends largely on whether or not you have the financial resources to make it happen, as well as what you plan to do when you are ready to return to work. In some cases, your employer might be willing to allow you to leave work for one or two months and then come back to your job, but you might not be able to stay away for a year.

You also might not have the financial resources to take a long sabbatical. Instead, you might have to limit your break to the size of your bank account.

Will You Earn Money While on Sabbatical?

Of course, you can augment your financial resources with income, depending on what you do while on your break. Perhaps you want to act as a consultant while you are taking your mini retirement or while you start a side business. Earning money while you are taking your mini retirement can help you extend it, and it can also provide you with a “resume filler” to use if you don’t want it to look like you’ve had a long break in your work history.

Do You Plan to Return to the Same Career Field?

Another consideration is whether or not you plan to return to the same career field. Perhaps part of your sabbatical involves retraining so you can start a new career. If you take a long break, you will probably have to find a new job regardless of whether or not you change career fields. Carefully consider the logistics of this before you make your choice.

In the end, a sabbatical can provide you with a way to enjoy your life now, during your healthy working years. If you have to work longer later, it isn’t as bothersome if you’ve had the chance to take mini retirements along the way.

So, would you take a career sabbatical? How do you think you might benefit? Leave a comment!


How To Live With No Regrets

Live With No RegretsIf you had to summarize everything you know about money into one sentence, could you do it? Just a few months ago I wouldn’t have been able to but now I can. In fact I can boil it down into just two words – No Regrets

If you’re a stickler for finance I know you may not agree with this tip. I can understand why you might read it with some skepticism. Until this last May I would have felt the same way about what I am going to say.

In fact, part of me thinks I shouldn’t even waste your time trying to convince you of its importance. As a parent, I’ve seen how people don’t really believe the advice you’ve given until they do the opposite and suffer the consequences.

It doesn’t matter if you’re 8 or 48, the only way you really learn is through experience. So I know that you’ll probably read what I’m about to share, maybe file it away or just blow it off, and go on with your day.

This Changed My Life

Whether it helps you or not I feel obligated and compelled to share this with you because it’s changed my life. If a red flag just went up in your mind because you’ve heard about so many “life changing” experiences, I understand. I really shouldn’t even use that term because of the skepticism it can trigger but I’m sticking with it because it’s accurate.

Not only has it changed what I do in my day to day life but also how I think about life and how I experience it. I won’t go into detail about what happened to me and why I feel so strongly about this tip because it doesn’t really matter. It’s not about what happened; it’s about what I learned.

Sharing What I Learned

This is really about you, not about me. I had a nightmarish time in my life last May but in hindsight it taught me a lesson I probably wouldn’t have learned otherwise. I’ve had the benefit of an Ebenezer Scrooge type experience, now I want to pass the insight I gained onto you.

So I’ll just say that I didn’t think I’d be around to see my kid’s next birthday and leave it at that. Experiences like those send your mind into places you’ve probably never explored before. As I lay there wrestling with these fears night after night my brain always ended up sliding back into the same heart breaking place. A giant cauldron of regret. My every waking action simmered in an ever-present, ever-growing feeling of regret and remorse.

That is why my tip to you is simple but vitally important – Live With No Regrets

I know it’s not an actionable tip, you can’t take it to the bank. It’s not going to help you save $500 in 20 minutes. It’s really more of a mantra or a philosophy than a tip.

No Second Chances

Years from now when you look back on your decisions and choices, you won’t be able to turn back time and get a second chance. If you’re able to think back on your life with a sense of peace and gratitude that will be amazing. If not, you’d give any amount of money to be able to go back and try again.

But of course you can’t, life doesn’t work that way. That’s why trying to live with no regrets is so important. So what are you supposed to take away from “No Regrets”? It’s a pretty vague philosophy, how can you apply it to your situation? Here are 5 ways to adjust your life so you’re more likely to look back with fewer regrets:

1) Quantify What’s Important

Most of us don’t have a bottomless bank account or endless days of leisure. Since we’re constrained by time and money we have to make decisions about how to use those limited resources based on what’s important to us.

It’s difficult to put a monetary value on lots of things in life but you can measure them against other things in your life. An example of this that you’ve likely faced before is choosing which job to pursue or accept.

You’ve probably wrestled with how important job flexibility was – whether you wanted to schedule your job around your life vs scheduling your life around your job.
Weigh Your Options
Things like the importance of flexibility compared to salary, your interest in the job vs benefits, opportunity for advancement vs required travel.

These are all aspects of a job that you have to weigh against one another. It’s really tough to put a financial value on flexibility, job interest, and time away from home but you still have to consider them when choosing the right job for you.

You don’t have analyze every decision but it really helps to take the time to measure and weigh the important factors when making big life decisions.

Weighted Criteria Matrix
This is one tool you can use to measure and rank life decisions and the factors that go into them. I talk about it in the context of a job search, here’s how you can apply it to help choose the right job.

Simple Head to Head
You can use the same approach for any big life decision but you don’t have to be that thorough. There’s a simple trick I taught my son for making decisions when he got hung up choosing between different options – the head to head method.

You take your top 6 options and compare them with each other one pair at a time.

  • Option #1 vs #2 – Pair A
  • Option #3 vs #4 – Pair B
  • Option #5 vs #6 – Pair C

Then you compare the best option from Pair A against the best option from Pair B. Whichever one comes out on top, you compare against the best option from Pair C. The winner of that “head to head” is your top option.

Not very sophisticated but if you make a note about each pair and your reasons for choosing then you come out with a winner and you know why you took that path.

Whatever your method, however simple or complex, it’s vital to learn how to quantify what’s important in life and make your decisions based on that.

You won’t always (ever) have perfect decisions as a result but following a system can help you avoid making a string of life decisions that you end up regretting in the short and long term.

2) Get Better at Saying No

Learn to say no
What are the most important things in your life? What do you want to accomplish, to leave as a legacy? Since you have a limited amount of time and money you want to focus on investing them towards achieving those goals.

Every time you say yes to spending time or money on something that doesn’t match up with your life goals you’re chipping away at part of what’s important to you.

I’m sure some of these “asks” might sound familiar to you:

  • Can you take on this project?
  • Will you volunteer for this position?
  • Can we tackle this house project?
  • Will you work this weekend?

Whether it’s your boss, friends, spouse, co-workers, church, club, parents, neighbor, or kids there will be people asking for your time.

Getting better at deciding who to say no to and how to say it will free up some of your time to focus on meaningful parts of your life.

If you’ve ever seen the movie Office Space you’ll remember the banner the boss (Bill Lumbergh) hung up that asked “Is This Good for the Company”. Lumbergh instructed every employee to ask that question before every decision they made at work. You can tweak Lumbergh’s suggestion and ask yourself “Is This Good for My Life” every time you’re asked to give time and money.

Unfortunately saying no is something that I’ve never been very good at. I would love to hear in the comments what approach works for you. Here are some tips from LifeHacker and Zen Habits on how you can learn to say no.

3) Be Present

Offering this type of generic advice runs counter to my personality. I prefer specific and actionable tips and I’ll admit that suggesting you “be present” is vague and not action oriented.

I found some decent tips for “living in the moment” that I’ll share in a minute. The main take away I’d like you to remember is not to spend so much time thinking about the future that you ignore the present.

Soak it in.

This catchy quote from Alice Morse Earle sticks in my head:

“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it is called the present.”

Unfortunately I haven’t always heeded this advice. As you know from reading this site, I’ve been working hard to accumulate and preserve money since I’ve been a kid.

I’ve always been thinking about the future, about what was next. However, one of the lessons I learned from my health scare was that I wasn’t making enough space in my brain for the present.

It can be tough to do with competing demands from work and family and today’s attention greedy society. Here are some actionable tips to help you along:

4) Allow Yourself to Celebrate

Celebrate Success
If you’re an overachiever you’ll have days where you feel defeated. Nothing went right, you made little/no progress, or things even went really wrong. It’s easy to get down in the dumps on those days but don’t let it hold you down.

If you’re reading this then chances are you’re better off than most of the people in the world. Even when you have a terrible day your life is overall still pretty good.

Why is it important to pep yourself up?

If you get hung up on the down dips you can waste days and weeks fretting over them and missing out on other things going on in your life. If you’re healthy and keep a positive attitude then you can overcome those challenges tomorrow.

The reason there are so many famous quotes about how successful people are good at dealing with failure and moving on is because it’s true.

Revel in the Small Wins
As achievers we tend to set our goals high and get frustrated when we don’t achieve them. One aspect of living with no regrets is allowing yourself to celebrate the gains that you do make even if you are not fully achieving your goals.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t push yourself because ambitious people help make the world go around – just give yourself permission to celebrate a little.

I’ll admit I’m not good at this; in fact I’m pretty terrible at it. I’ve been getting better lately but it’s still tough for me to find a balance between achievement and celebration.

Let me ask you this. If your life is only about achievement and you die next month do you think you’ll regret the celebrations you missed out on?

5) Be Lean

[Photo Eric RiesMr. Lean (Eric Ries)]

Being lean has a double meaning in this case. The first and most obvious is to stay healthy. Regular exercise can not only help you live longer – it also gives you time to yourself to reflect on, plan for, and appreciate life.

The second meaning has its roots in lean manufacturing. I was exposed to it via Eric Ries and his concept of a Lean Startup in business but it can also apply to your life.

In a nutshell, the approach is about quickly discovering the right thing to create. The goal is to avoid wasting time and money on something your customers don’t want. A great way to achieve this is by running lots of little tests to quickly learn whether you’re on the right track or going off in the weeds.

Lean in Your Life
You can apply this same approach to big decisions in your life. Rather than making assumptions and spending big chunks of your life trying to achieve something based on those assumptions you can setup small tests and spend some time trying to prove/invalidate them.  For example, if you’re thinking about changing careers you can look for an internship, temp job, or volunteer role in the industry/career you’re considering to see if it’s worth investing further time and money into.

Testing Assumptions
Maybe one of your assumptions is that you need to change careers to make more money, get a better work schedule, or to find a job that you really enjoy.  All those things could be true but until you confirm or invalidate them it’s possible that you could be doing the (wasted) work to switch careers when what you really want could be obtained with your current skill set or industry.

If you do find you need to change careers the next step could be to test your assumptions about internships, part-time jobs, and volunteer roles. There’s always something else about your life you can test.

If you think you could avoid wasting time and money while in hot pursuit of something you’re not sure about then I’d definitely suggest you read more about lean principles. Here are two articles that can help you get started:

Living With No Regrets

I’m sorry to say there is no secret formula to being able to live regret free. When I started this site 8 years ago I knew that I wanted to address the importance of managing your money wisely while also using your money as a tool to have a good life. Ironically I put so much time and effort into running the site that I probably missed out on some things in life. I don’t regret publishing Money Smart Life over the years but there are some things that I wish I’d done differently.

Looking back on my 5 suggestions for living with no regrets, I realize that I’m not great at many of them. I’m still in the process of transitioning from work-a-holic to a guy who can stop and smell the roses.  I’m still figuring this out so I’d love to hear any comments or tips you can share that have helped you make better decisions and left you with fewer regrets.

Obviously making mistakes is human and mistakes help us learn.  We’ll always have some regrets but hopefully these tips can help you avoid regret for the really important things in life. Please share your experiences, suggestions, or tips in the comments below!


Are You Spending Enough Time Planning Your Retirement?

Retirement PlanNot too long ago, I read an article on CNN Money reporting on a survey from Charles Schwab. The results indicate that most workers spend more time researching vacations and car purchases than they do retirement.

It’s true that researching the investment options for a 401(k) or other employer-sponsored plan can be a daunting task. However, since your retirement is something that is likely to last two or three decades, it makes sense that you should spend more time researching it than you do your next vacation.

According to the survey, though, 39 percent of respondents spent five hours or more researching vacation options. More than half of those surveyed had spent five hours or more researching their car purchases. Only 11 percent of those surveyed indicated that they had spent at least five hours researching their investment options.

Have You Performed a Retirement Needs Assessment?

This information isn’t that surprising when you consider that less than half of Americans have performed a retirement needs assessment, according to the Employee Benefit Research Institute. Since many Americans don’t even know how much they will need during retirement, it’s not a stretch to believe that most Americans probably spend more time researching their vacations than their retirement investments.

However, this is not the best way to go about things if you want a successful retirement. Your first step is to sit down and figure out what it will take for you to have the retirement you want. Think about what you want to do during retirement, whether you are interested in travel, working on a hobby, or some other activity.

You should also estimate how much you will spend during retirement, using your current expenses as a starting point. Think about what it will cost to live your preferred retirement lifestyle, as well as think about how much you might have to pay when it comes to healthcare costs and other living expenses. A good, fee-only financial planner can help you figure out what to expect, and there are a number of online calculators that can also help.

Where Should You Put Your Money?

Once you know how much it will take for you to meet your retirement goals, you can then figure out where to put your money. Most employer-sponsored retirement plans allow you to choose from a number of index funds and ETFs, and other investments. You can look over these investments to figure out which are likely to help you reach your goals.

If you aren’t sure what to expect, you can get guidance from someone in the HR department, or consult with a knowledgeable and trustworthy fee-only financial planner. While it can be daunting, especially for the beginner, there is no reason to avoid it. Start out by learning about your options, and then figuring out what is appropriate for your situation. You might be surprised to discover that, if you give the same amount of thought to your retirement situation as you do to your vacation planning, that you will be in a better place with your long-term finances.

So, are you spending enough time planning your retirement? Leave a comment with your thoughts!


How Income Diversity Can Help During a Job Loss

Job LossThe loss of a job can be one of the most challenging events you will face. A job loss affects your finances on every level. And, due to the fact that the economy is making a significant shift, it’s important to realize that a job loss is an increasing possibility.

Gone are the days when you could get a job and expect to have it for two or three decades before retiring. These days, the new economy focuses on jobs that are much more temporary. You are likely to change jobs several times throughout your life, and some of those changes may not be voluntary.

In order to prepare for these types of difficulties, it’s important to develop income diversity. Income diversity reduces your financial risk, and can help you during a job loss.

Income from Multiple Sources

When the bulk of your income is from a day job, you are putting your finances at risk. The reality is that relying heavily on your day job for your financial well-being can be extremely risky. Once you lose your job, your entire livelihood is gone. If you develop multiple sources for your income, some of that risk is alleviated.

If you have a little bit of income coming from a side business, or if your partner works part-time, you aren’t quite as devastated when you lose your job. After all, there’s still some income trickling in. It might not be that much, but it’s better than nothing. And, since unemployment benefits won’t replace your income, it’s good to have these other sources to help supplement your unemployment benefits. It will mean that you won’t draw down your emergency fund as quickly.

How to Use Income Diversity to Prepare for Possible Job Loss

As with all things personal finance, it’s best to prepare for difficulties ahead of time. You can use income diversity to your advantage before you even lose your job. The best approach is to live on what you get from your main day job and put the extra income from your diverse sources to work ahead of time.

Some of the things that you can do with your supplemental income include:

  • Pay down debt: If you have debt obligations, use your supplemental income to get rid of high-interest debt. The fewer obligations you have if you lose your job, the better off you’ll be. That way, you don’t have to worry about the credit and income consequences that come when you end up missing debt payments.
  • Build your emergency fund: Your extra income can be a great way to pad your emergency fund. Whether you keep your emergency assets in a high-yield account, or whether you look for better yield with the help of a taxable investment account, using your extra income to build up for an emergency can be smart since it will help you get through a job loss.
  • Continue to invest in your future: Diverting some of your income toward the future can also be a good idea. You can build your retirement nest egg or start an income portfolio. It can take time to build an income portfolio, but it can be worth it in the end if you manage to get some passive income. This passive income can, in turn, become another income stream that can help during a job loss.

It’s never fun to think about the possibility of a job loss. However, it’s important to be on top of the situation, and make sure that you are prepared for the possibilities. Cultivating income diversity is a good way to get a little extra money to better your situation now, and protect you against problems in the future.

Do you have multiple sources of income? If not, what are you going to do to achieve it? Leave a comment!


What To Do With Your Investments After a Layoff

job lossIf you’ve been laid off, but you were working with your previous employer for number of years, you probably accumulated a good chunk of money in your employer-sponsored retirement plan. And hopefully, you’ve also got some promising investments outside of your retirement plan. When you lose your job, and the search for ways to pay the bills is on, all options are on the table – including your investments.

There’s no question about it, a layoff forces some tough choices when it comes to your investments. You have to make choices about current needs versus long-term savings plans. In light of that, what should you do with your investments after a layoff?

1. Leave Tax-Sheltered Plans Alone!

Tax-sheltered retirement plans are often tapped following a layoff. And if there is very little in the way of savings outside of a retirement plan, this usually happens pretty early in the process. But this is fundamentally one of the worst post-layoff moves you can make.

Consider the complications of withdrawing money from your retirement plan:

  • You will be using money that is invested for long-term needs to pay current bills
  • You will be reducing the money that will be available for retirement – and the investment income it will earn
  • By making an early withrawal, you will not only have to pay income tax on the money – both federal and state – but you will also be subject to the IRS 10% penalty tax on early withdrawals; this will increase your income tax bill at a time of reduced income
  • Like everything else in life, success in retirement saving is largely about momentum; by withdrawing money from your plan well before retirement, you may lose that momentum – maybe even forever!

Tax-sheltered retirement plans should be the last piggybank that you break open in the event of a layoff. And even then, it should be done only in emergency situations.

2. Shift to More Conservative Assets

A layoff is an excellent time to shift your investments into more conservative assets. Sure, you may be giving up potential investment income, but the potential losses you could face will more than compensate for it.

Here’s the thing – when you don’t have a steady paycheck, you can’t afford to take big losses in your investments. You won’t be in a position to put more money into your investments to cover for the losses. What income you do have will need to be used to pay bills for survival.

You’ve heard the saying when it rains, it pours; the loss of your income makes you vulnerable to other catastrophes. By shifting your investments into more conservative assets, you reduce the likelihood of a sudden, substantial drop in value.

Having a solid income is one of the best ways to diversify against investment market risk. If you don’t have that income anymore, you need to get as close to a risk-free position as possible in your portfolio. This is true in your retirement portfolio, but even more so for your non-retirement portfolio. You’ll need to keep that money available for whatever might come up.

3. Resist the Urge to Gamble with Your Money

A layoff sometimes creates the desire to “make up for lost income” through your investments. That might include taking a chance in the stock market, or even with commodities, in an attempt to make up for the investment and retirement contributions that you’re not making as a result of your job loss.

For all the reasons stated above, you need to avoid taking chances with your savings and investments. It’s almost a cosmic  reality, but when you lose a job you are more vulnerable to other financial setbacks. By avoiding high-risk investments, you can at least eliminate one potential source of financial trouble.

4. Keep Your Liquid Assets Handy

Conservation of liquid assets will be absolutely essential in dealing with life after a layoff. You’ll have to resign yourself to the fact that any liquid assets that you have will be fair game in paying for basic living expenses.

Liquid assets include cash-type investments, including certificates of deposit, treasury bills, money market accounts, and savings and checking accounts. In fact they can include any investment asset that is not either sitting in a retirement plan, or invested in equities or mutual funds through a non-retirement account.

You need to do the best that you can to preserve these assets, but you’ll also have to create a budget. The worst thing you can do is to draw down your liquid assets within a couple of months after your layoff. You have to do your best to parcel them out, a little bit at a time, so that they can act as a supplement to whatever reduced income you have for as long as possible.

One of the worst uses for liquid assets is using them to pay off debt. The intention is good – by paying off the debt, you also eliminate a monthly payment. The problem comes in that the loan balance you’re paying off is usually many times higher than the monthly payment you’re taking out. For this reason, a layoff is not a good time to begin paying off debt. Sure, it will enable you to lower your monthly expenses, but it will also deny you the use much-needed liquid assets, and often force you to borrow more money at a later date.

What advice do you have on how to handle your investments after a layoff? Leave a comment!


Can You Keep Your House When You Lose Your Job?

Lose Your JobOne of the scariest things about losing your job is trying to figure out what you will do about your living arrangements. After all, if you have a mortgage and lose your job, it might make it difficult to keep up with your payments. Whether or not it is practical to keep your home after a job loss depends on your situation, and what you can expect going forward.

Can Your Emergency Fund Make the Payments?

The first thing to consider is whether or not your emergency fund can handle your mortgage payments. Do you have enough assets to keep making payments?

If you can handle payments, with the help of your emergency fund, for six months or so, you might be able to tough it out – as long as you can get some income quickly.

When you are determined to keep your house, and keep making mortgage payments, you will need to make sure that you are prepared with income. Your partner might need to get a job, and you might need to accept work that you wouldn’t normally do. You might need to tap into investments, although you should be very, very wary of depleting your retirement account just to make your mortgage payments.

Be realistic about whether or not you can handle making your mortgage payments with your job loss. If you can’t expect to make the payments, it’s time to take action and move on as quickly as you can before things get worse.

Getting Rid of the House

“Borrowers finding it difficult to pay their mortgages should first communicate their difficulties to their mortgage companies,” says financial advisor Richard Sturm. “Mortgage companies are experienced with borrowers who run into difficult times and may have solutions that would equally benefit both the borrower and the lender.”

However, when it gets right down to it, realize that your lender will do what’s best for the bank before worrying about what’s best for you. But it’s a good idea to understand your options as quickly as possible, and work to find a solution before things get too desperate.

Sturm suggests that a short sale can be a reasonable option. “Borrowers with negative equity and no ability to make future payments might consider a short sale,” he says. “A short sale is an agreement made between the borrower and the lender whereby the lender may agree to take less than what is owed upon the sale of the property.”

This is a shorter process than foreclosure, and you might be able to avoid some of the problems that come with a foreclosure. However, it’s important to understand that the amount you are forgiven is considered income by the IRS. So, if you owe $150,000 on your home, and the bank agrees to allow you to sell for $135,000, the difference of $15,000 is considered income and you will be taxed on it. If your unemployment goes on long enough that this doesn’t matter, it’s not a problem. But if you find a job, or if you made good money before you lost your job, this loan forgiveness can result in higher taxes.

In some cases, foreclosure is the only option. As bad as it sounds, the reality is that you can often live in your home for months while you look for a suitable rental or other arrangement before the foreclosure process is completed.

It’s never fun to contemplate the realities of a job loss, but they must be faced. Consider your options when it comes to your home, and make sure you do what’s necessary for your finances in this difficult time.

So, if you were to lose your job, do you think you’d be able to keep your house? Leave a comment and tell us why or why not!



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