What Were We Thinking?
November 23, 2011
Do you ever have one of those moments in life where you stop dead in your tracks, smack yourself in the forehead, and say “what was I thinking!”
I’m sure we’ve all had moments like that, I think it’s just part of being human. I’ve actually been having that thought more often lately, and it’s all because of a decision my lovely wife made 20 years ago.
My wife is from a family of three kids and ever since she was a teenager, she’s known that someday she wanted three kids of her own. I knew this when I married her but I always said we shouldn’t rush into anything. I wanted to take it one kid at a time and see how things went – why commit to three kids when you don’t know if you can handle one, right?
So after having our second kid several years ago, it was decision time. Could we handle another one? Did it make sense for us?
After a lot of discussion, debate, and spreadsheets we finally decided that we were cut out to be a three kid family.
Kids are Sooooo Expensive
Deciding to have that third kid was a big financial decision for us because it really pushed our boundaries in a number of ways. In addition to adding the standard costs of raising a kid (and even more kids costs), we’d also need to get a bigger house and a bigger car to fit our clan.
It would be an understatement to say that we put a lot of time into planning and preparing to grow our family. We’ve basically spent the last two years getting ready – saving money for a new car, selling our house, buying a bigger house, buying a bigger car….. and now the big day is only a few months away.
Although we’re really excited to meet our little girl, there are times (when our two kids are acting like little heathens) that we look at each other and ask “what were we thinking”?
Beating Cold Feet
So like any major life decision that’s already been made, we’re occasionally a little apprehensive about the hand we’re holding and how it will play out. At times like those it’s nice to be able to look back at the reasons why you made your decision (write them down) and the plan you made for making it work (write this down too).
We spent enough time debating our decision and planning out our options that we know exactly why we chose to have another kid and that we can handle it.
Giving Thanks for Family
This Thanksgiving we’re very thankful for the opportunity to be able to grow our family and that our little bun in the oven is cooking along just like she should!
We’ve started a tradition with our kids called the “Thankful Tree” where we tape a brown paper tree trunk to the side of our fridge at this time of year. Every night we each write one thing we’re thankful for on a construction paper leaf and tape it to the trunk.
Watching our kids learn to appreciate life and put their favorite things into words is a great reminder for me of why it’s so awesome to be a parent and makes me very thankful to have kids and to be a part of a family.
I hope that you have a chance to spend time with your family over the holiday (unless they drive you crazy, in which case I hope you get to spend it relaxing in the peace and quiet of your own home).
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