How to Beat Your Bullies
[Note: In case you’re wondering, this post is a follow up to Stop Getting Pushed Around! (which received some amazing comments, thanks for the insight!). I try my best to respond to each and every comment BTW].
The Morning After…
I was the last pickup in my neighborhood and that Tuesday morning after standing up to Hank I had to walk the gauntlet all the way to the empty seat at the back of the bus. Right past bully Hank and his cronies, directly into the belly of the bully beast.
When I climbed up the steps Hank was busy tormenting a kid named Andy from the stop before me. I was certain once I was in his sights that the merciless bullying would begin … so I couldn’t believe my luck when I squeezed right past Hank and he didn’t even blink an eye.
I dreaded the ride home that afternoon and got on the bus ready for the worst. When Hank ignored me again I sat wondering the whole ride home what was up his sleeve. “He’s going to get me on my way out”, I thought. But as I watched the bus pull away after dropping me off I couldn’t believe I’d made it a whole day without a single encounter with Hank!
What Bullies Really Want
It was then that I realized that Hank had moved on to easier targets. Bullies thrive on people who won’t stand up for themselves. Bullies want an easy target, if you fight back they’ll leave you alone. Although the fight had freaked me out and hurt a little it taught me a lesson I’ll never forget. It’s better to stand up for yourself and get a bloody lip than to sit quietly and endure a bully forever.
I’ve seen and heard about a lot of bad money habits over the years but I’ve always tried to bite my tounge. I’m no Suze Orman who’s going to yell at you and tell you you’re doing it all wrong. Everyone’s life is unique and people handle their money in the best way they see fit. However, there is something that everyone should consider that can make a huge difference.
What Makes The Difference
The one thing I’ve seen make the biggest difference in people’s financial situations is courage. The courage to stand up for themselves, even when it feels like they’re David up against Goliath. It may sound a little hokey at first but when you think about the capitalist economy we live in, it starts to make more sense.
The beauty of our country is that you’re free to live your life how you choose, to earn and spend money however you’d like. That freedom also gives companies the chance to sell you whatever you’ll buy as often as you’ll buy (within legal limits of course).
Think about a sample experiment. If you said yes to everything you were offered you’d go broke pretty quickly. Actually, it’d be worse than that, you wouldn’t go broke right away. You’d be able to live off credit for a while and then you’d be beyond broke – no money and thousands of dollars in debt.
What’s Best For Them, Not For You
At first glance it sounds pretty easy to just say no to everything, but you and I know that life is never that simple. What I found while combing through my notes is that there are a number of common areas in which you’re regularly pressured to give in.
You’re badgered into doing things with your money regardless if it’s good for you or not. These people and companies in your life are asking or demanding you do what’s best for them, not what’s best for you.
This group that’s pushing you around financially is lowering your income and increasing your expenses when you cave into their demands. I’ve found that the people who have the courage to consistently stand up to these money bullies are far better off financially.
I know it can be kind of depressing to hear this, if you get pushed down by a bully the last thing you want is someone standing over you and shoving the painful experience in your face. On the other hand, it is encouraging to know that some people have figured out ways to consistently beat their money bullies.
Time To Fight Back
Their ability to fight back and win against money bullies is actually so encouraging that its inspired me to “join the resistance” and stand with you to fight back. What I want to do is launch a huge bully buster out into the world!
I’m seriously considering putting together an arsenal of weapons you can use to take out your bullies – (not actual weapons, of course) – basically a toolkit that others have already used to take hundreds of dollars back from bullies and keep it in their own pockets.
How to Fight Back
For years, my wife was a school teacher and she found the best way for people to get up the confidence and courage to stand up for themselves was to teach them the words to use when confronted by a bully.
Preparing people for what the it will be like and how to handle it made them multiple times more likely to fight back and win.
So that’s what I want to do for you. To give you an edge against the financial bullies who are slowly draining you of money. To help you fight back and “open a can of whoop-ass”….
- For taking it to the insurance company that continues to ignore or deny your claim
- Giving you an edge over your boss who keeps on demanding more without a pay raise
- Fighting cell phone companies who keep raising their rates while sending you through phone menu mazes ending in angry phone reps
- Stand up to your spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend who’s blowing your hard earned money
- Kick out the banks who are attacking your account balance with excess fees & charges
Will You Fight Back?
So many people I hear from are frustrated – they’re feeling worried, hopeless, and beat down and they don’t know how to fix it. Because of all the emails and feedback I’ve actually been considering doing this for quite some time but I do have a concern. I don’t know if people are really ready to stand up for themselves.
It’s one thing to talk about fighting back but its something else to actually make the time and get up the nerve to do it. There’s a reason why these companies not only stay in business but are making fist fulls of cash… because most people put up with their tactics.
So, the behind the scenes kind of stuff I’d be sharing is really only for a certain type of person. Simply being fed up isn’t enough, you have to be willing to make a stand – are there enough people out there ready for something like that?
Despite my concerns…
I’m seriously considering doing this because I know it could really empower you. But if I do it will be A LOT of work. I’ve been around long enough to know that my small projects quickly get out of hand and turn into big ones. So I only want to do this if there’s enough interest.
So I want to know.
- What do you think?
- Should I do this?
- Would you be interested?
Your feedback and thoughts are absolutely the fuel that keeps me going. And I don’t want to even think about doing this unless there’s enough potential interest.
Anyway, if you have a second, please leave a comment below and let me know what you think.
It would mean a lot to me, and I’ll do my best to respond to each and every comment.